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Its not the marriage, its the Love that matters

The discussion is not new its as old as Shiva and Parvathi, and when goddess chose Shiva who was not considered as ideal husband by her parents, but still she married him and they became the ideal couple to the world, and we call them as 'vaak artha iva samprikthau, jagatah pitarau vande parvati parameshwarau' Is there any question or doubt about Love marriage?

We have seen many couple around us, since childhood starting from parents. The married life of parents very much affects the thoughts of children. If they are happily married and an ideal couple children will think theirs was the best marriage, it could be Love or Arranged. Then you start looking at all the people around you and have your own conclusions on marriages. But hey until you are married what ever analysis you do on others life is fake!! Because none of the couple will show what they are inside outside! So all your assumptions they are happy, they are unhappy is baseless.

So how do you decide whether to go for Love marriage or Arranged? You need not decide. When it happens it happens. If you fall in love and get same reciprocation from otherside, just go with that. If you do not fall in love, or if you do not get reciprocation from otherside, just go with traditional search and love the partner you get. It is that simple. Nobody decides to fall in love. If you decide to go for Love marriage and go on rejecting all proposals you get from traditional ways, you might have missed your love in one of them, who knows!!

And after marriage, whether it was Love marriage or Arranged marriage, it is the Love for each other that makes or breaks a marriage.

If each person has a space for other person in his heart, ready to make sacrifices, then only the life long partnership will continue. If one is selfish, and does not want to sacrifice anything for the sake of partner, then  no doubt the marriage will not last.

Love marriage with the blessings of elders is a dream come true. But often it does not happen, but then you are proud you have taken your decision, you have not ditched the person whom you loved, you take all the responsibility to keep the other person happy. The other person will not ditch you because he or she know how much you sacrificed to marry her.

My vote is for Love marriage, as long as both the people involved in decision making are mature and sensible. But I really wonder how many of the young generation are really smart enough to take right decisions, choose the right life partner. Because you do not choose a life partner just because she likes the same chocolate which you eat, but if she reads the same book you read, there is some match. But again it is not common interest that matters, it is how much love you have for each other, how much of an extra mile you will go to keep your love light the way.

As long as you want to make your partner's life a heaven and not hell, and do not expect him to make your life heaven, then your life, love and everything around you will be a paradise.

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